We are having the hardest time with our Little Man. I realize that two is a hard age. Really, it is much more difficult with this guy than it was with my Princess. He is meaner, more defiant, and very stubborn. We are at our wits end. I prayed for a really mellow second child – an easy going boy. I didn’t realize that my Princess was our easy going child. She was so pleasant and easy to parent at this age compared to my Little Man.
How did you make it through the toddler stage?
We have a plastic chair we brought in from the garage. It is now the official “time out chair”. When my Little Man disobeys after we’ve corrected him once verbally, we put him in the time out chair. I’ll let you in on a secret. Time outs are not working very well. At all. We make him sit for two minutes. He screams and kicks almost the entire time. He’ll get out of time out the moment you look away. Ugh! Please Lord, help me with this child.
I know I am not alone in this parenting struggle. There are countless mothers who are wondering how in the world they should discipline their difficult toddlers. My husband and I keep saying that it is a good thing two year old’s are so cute. Still, I just might be crazy right now. Check back with me when he grows out of this stage. (Please Lord, let him grow out of this stage.) While I am in the trenches, so to speak, imagine my surprise when I read this Yahoo! Parenting article about time outs.
Time outs have been a common form of discipline the last decade. In fact, I’ve used them frequently for both of my children. When used correctly a time out can work at correcting behavior in our children. But, according to the article, when a time out is used as a punishment when a parent is angry (guilty finger pointing at myself) then kids are not benefiting from it. Experts are saying that timeouts, to the child, equate to rejection. Further, kids get the feeling that parents only want to be around them when they “have it all together”. Other experts are recommending time outs for kids older than four, when kids can understand better that they are not losing the love of their parent.
What do you think ?
Are time outs good or bad for the kids?
I am just trying to figure out what works best for my Little Man. Distraction sometimes works for him. Getting down to his level, speaking firmly, and holding his shoulders sometimes works. I need more ideas though. Help, please?
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